So I figured out I liked this girl a lot and then I found out she liked me. I'm only 15 and this is my first real girlfriend what is some advice you can give
this board is definetely the perfect place for things like that :D
so you already asked her out? or are you wanting advice on how to ask her out?
If you want to talk to me personally you should come to my xat chat :\ (http://hetoan2.com/xat)
Quote from: Bully@Wiiplaza on September 05, 2011, 02:51:52 PM
this board is definetely the perfect place for things like that :D
lol xD
we are both new to the concept so we're in the dark. I don't use facebook much so this is where i usally communicate with people And yes in a way I asked her out. She understood.
Edit: Help she wants to kiss me and kinda want to too. What to do what to do.
There are different types of kisses. Explore them all. Kissing is awesome. Start with pecks. They are very useful. You use them to say hello and goodbye. Or just for fun. Frenching is much more passionate. Did you know that in asia kissing is considered to be very erotic and the old generation dislike public demonstrations of kissing. It's supposed to be sacred and personal. Originally kissing was a way to feed our children. Eventually, it became like the lady and the tramp speghetti romantic kiss, and then progressed in more of an emotional arousing act towards partners.
People still feed each other like this, in Africa for example, familly's feed each other via kissing.
So, remember this, kissing is special. It's filled with love. Bitting or nipping is fun, and used when things get raunchy, so be careful. Feel what your partner is going through then decide what is appropriate for both of you. One of the most erogenous areas is the mouth due to it's nerve endings. Anywhere there are sensitive nerve endings there will be pleasure. Have fun.
Oh, BTW, swallow your saliva before kissing. You'll naturally hypersalivate, so make sure you don't spit in her mouth, lol.
P.S. If you ever get pressured into kissing by people/friends, tell them to get a life. And tell them that it's harrassement and they can go to jail for that.
ummm... thanks for the science. But seriously thanks I really need help my friend(not the girl) is bisexual and has a different way of expressing feelings so he's a little bit of help but not much
Know this, we all have an emotional centre. This centre is the first process of perception. The process then goes into a more logical interpretation which we call our cognition.
In other words, you are a man, and you have emotions (duh). What you might not have known is these emotions are responsible for all micro expressions. These micro expression have no language other than being emotional. Sometimes, words are not enough to express what you are feeling and that is ok! Your cognition does not feel, it only correlates (sees patterns/relationships).
So, even though your friend is " in tune" with his sexuallity, it does not mean that he's got it right for you. You have different intensities and combinations of emotions. If you can't express them verbally, do it physically. (If you feel overwhelmed with love, give her a hug. She askes you why? Say that you love that much right now. If she asks you why again, say that it's simply being with her.)
This reminds me. Whenever someone get's hurt it'll be most likely because they are not doing well. Anxiety (sadness /anger/frustrations/fear) will take blood away from the correlated body part (nerves and energy). This will bring consiousness away from the body part and will be more easily hurt (bumped). Because the energy and blood is gone from the area, the strength of the area is diminished and therefore prone to damage too, so much sometimes, that even a hug can hurt. Do not take it personal, and take advantage here to listen to her problem. Do not fix the problem, simply listen and understand her. You are not there to fix her. You are there to enjoy her. So be selfish and give her another hug! Distract her and have fun. She will love you for it! If she asks you your opinion you can givve it. If you think it's none constructive, ask her if she has any idea how to handle this and follow her lead. Sometimes, going with the flow is what is appropriate.
Thanks man. I get to see her inperson today so I'm a tad nervous. But I'll take your advice and will try not to embarress myself :)
Edit:just got out of school and unfortunatly didn't get to ask her out in person because people kept intrupting us. So I had to text her but at least she said yes ;D
YAY!!! Well done! Thank goodness for txt messages!
Word of advice, if you doubt, sit down and reflect upon it. If you still are doubting, don't risk it. Whatever it is. There will be a moment where everything will be perfect. That's how life works. There is a time for everything, and everything will fall into place perfectly. This will allow you to not embarrass yourself.
So, what you did; wait until you could talk to her (txt her), was perfect. Well done!
Thanks, but I think (I hope not) that I'll be back in a whlie (two maybe six monthes) saying we broke up. And that's not a happy thought. But I'm 15 and the first girl friend may not be the one for me. At the moment she's perfect. Thanks to thoughs that read this or responded.
Fear is always make believe. You have to invision what might happen. That's what you fear centres is good at. It will tell you when there MIGHT be danger. Listen to it, although, be cautious of it. Sometimes, the fear can be created, and thus un-natural.
Did you know that Pyschopaths know nothing of fear. They are also the most unloving people I have met. Unfortunately for them, they can never really experience what love could really become.
Without fear of loss of love, there can never be the experience of gratitude that you get when you realise that it was only a fear.
Usually, there will be a time where things become more calm in a relationship. This can be between 3 months to 2 years. I say, get to know her more, and grow with her at this time. You would have had changed too.Let her to experience your changes. Believe me, love always changes, and yet, it's alwyas love!
S***, her dad is a b****. She told her parents that she was going on a date then her dad told her she had to be 16 before dating. F**k.
Sorry for my language just a little ticked.
Edit: she wants to pull off a secert relationship so I'm back to being happy but have no idea how to do this.
how old?
she's about to turn 14. I'm a little old for my grade.
ah alright and you are 15 right?Actually, i think age doesnt matter at all... As long as you don't.... lol i think you know what i mean xD
I agree with DeathWolf. Age has nothing to do with love. A new born loves his/her mother. So can 14 year olds.
I think that your father and Deathwolf are talking about empregnating her. I would intorduce you to him. Allow him to be fearful, and make sure the mother is there. The mother has to be there. If they like you everything should be ok.
Parents fear the worst. They understand that a young age mistakes are easy to make. What they leave out of the equation is that love is part of life. People get married at 14 in some countries.
To be completely fair, it really is not your responsibility to talk to her parents. She should, and you could talk to yours. You could even ask your parents to talk to hers, so that all of you can compromise on this new and important experiencce that all of you are going through. And of course you are allowed to have some alone time. It's crucial, and depressing if you don't.
You are intitled to be frustrated. Nonetheless, allow you to stay calm. Things change, and he'll come around when he sees his daughter distance herself from him. Allow her to understand that you feel that it would be unfair for her to be deceitful towards her parents, it's unloving. You prefer to be open and honest with her loving and over protective parents. Even though, you prefer her to be honest, you are entitled to be with her and she is with you. Stay together. It's ok ( and secretly the parents are giddy about all of this " Oh! our daughter is growing up so fast!"). Stick with her, and stay loving towards everyone. She'll admire that in you and trust that you will do more intelligent and responsible acts such as that.
I wouldn't be surprised if in the next couple days or weeks that you get an invite. Beat them to it if you'd like, and invite them over for dinner or a cup of tea. They would like that! If they understand that they have no reason to be afraidm due to understanding where you are coming from ( your prarents), then they will be reassured and accept you and your new love.
They fear the wrost. That you'll impregnate her and ruine all of her oportunities and that you'll leave her and break her heart and perhaps traumatise her ability to be in a relationship. It's very common fear. You'll be the some what calmer when you become a parent but nonetheless, still feel uneasy :). Silly parents. They are fighting a war that they can't win! Love will always prevail! You have no worries to be concerned about. Stick to optimistic thoughts and you'll see that everything will turn out perfect. Start to fear and you'll see that your reactions concur.
Having said that, right now, everything is not ok, and what he is doing is unloving and over-selfish.
What does he do as a carreer? What does her mom do as a carreer?
dunno but I don't want to empregnate her. That will ruin any relationship we have. Plus she belives she needs to be married first and so do I. I told her to search her dads pockets because in my opinon what someone carrys can be important to their personality
Wonderful idea! I'm so glad you have a team! Keep us posted.
Quote from: toonlink444 on September 08, 2011, 12:46:24 PM
I told her to search her dads pockets because in my opinon what someone carrys can be important to their personality
We're playing amateur psychologists, aren't we? What if a wallet's found in one of those pockets, what could that possibly signify about the father's personality? If she's caught searching her dad's pockets, what kind of a first impression do you think you'd be making on the father?
Good point. It'a my opinon though and I wont force mine on you if you dont force yours on me
You shouldn't search his wallet. Not only is it an invasion of privacy, you probably won't find anything too incriminating. I don't think fathers carry condoms in their pockets... just sayin'.
I never said search the wallet. Plus I didn't say it as a command just a view of my view.
pockets/wallet :\ really?
I somehow get the feeling that Patedj registered at the wrong forum. :smileyface:
Read through everything xD
Good to have a positive soul around. ;)
well what you guys think of what i think doesnt matter. yet we are going to meet at the movies without her parents permission. I don't want to see her get in trouble but I really want to see her outside of school. Love is hard when you're young
Quote from: toonlink444 on September 09, 2011, 01:00:50 PM
Love is hard when you're young
not only when one´s young...
yeah bully, you must be a whole lot older and more experienced at the game of love seeing as you're a good three years older than him >.>